Tossed Salads, Melting Pots, or Integration

As a living example of the "Melting Pot," I've often struggled with conflicts between the different cultural heritages that I have inherited and adopted. Although early in my life, I tended to reject one and embrace the other, when I moved to Egypt, we were given orientation as new students at Cairo American College and I was first introduced to the notion of culture shock and that there were steps I could take to integrate the two cultures that were colliding. They actually called us third-culture kids for the 3rd culture that was formed out of what parts we chose to integrate from the two we were bringing together through the experience of originating from one culture and then being planted in the middle of another. Since that time, I've strived more and more towards integration.

When a friend of mine introduced me to the following quote from Thomas Merton, it resonated with me as articulating the path I've been trying to navigate since I first began to realize that I have a choice in how I confront the different and sometimes conflicting cultures that I have encountered and embraced.

The one who has attained final integration is no longer limited by the culture
in which he has grown up. He has embraced all of life. He passes beyond all
these limiting forms, while retaining all that is best and most universal in
them, finally giving birth to a fully comprehensive self. He accepts not only
his own community, his own society, his own friends, his own culture, but all
humanity. He does not remain bound to one limited set of values in such a way
that he opposes them aggressively and defensively to others. He is fully
"Catholic" in the best sense of the word. He has a unified wisdom and experience
of the one truth shining out in all its various manifestations, some clearer
than others, some more definite and more certain than others. He does not set
these partial views up in opposition to each other, but unifies them in a
dialectic or an insight of complementarity. With this view of life he is able to
bring perspective, liberty and spontaneity into the lives of others. The finally
integrated person is a peacemaker, and that is why there is such a desperate
need for our leaders to become such persons of insight.

Thomas Merton
Final Integration -- Toward a "Monastic Therapy"
Contemplation In A World of Action

Peacemaker is one way that I have been told my name translates to English, and when I'm in the best frame of mind, I can certainly relate to it. The different perspectives provide a place from which, as a third party, alternate views can be perceived objectively and there is more clarity towards how the two views can find common ground.